February 9. 2020
If you feel that you are not enough, this is a reminder that you are more than enough. So often, our traumas, people, teachers, friends, and or society lead us to have a false sense of identity. Even our family can contribute to feelings of fear, shame, and guilt and we, in turn, sabotage ourselves because we feel unworthy of success and achievement.
We hide from, and dumb down our brilliance, afraid of what others may think of us. The sad thing is we allow this identity to carry us through our whole life never realizing our potential and our brilliance. If we could see ourselves as we truly are, we would be awestruck.
Recently I was listening to a podcast discussion between Dr. Daniel Pompa and Craig Blanchette on “The Power of Your Mindset.” Also, I have been re-reading a great book by Derek Rydall, titled “Emergence,” which I would highly recommend everyone read.
One of the ways to get yourself in a better place mentally is to start with “self-talk.” If things haven’t turned out how you wanted, ask yourself, what have you learned from all your experiences? Be kind to yourself and start seeing your good qualities and build on them.
Don’t ever put yourself in a situation where you are looking at other’s great talents and accomplishment and feeling “less than” or “jealous”……Use their good fortune as inspiration and know that you can accomplish great things too!
I have a friend who was lamenting about how intelligent someone is and wishing they could be like that. My friend was not seeing their great quality of being outgoing and friendly and able to pretty much talk to anyone. He is very successful in sales, and that is a great talent to have. We all have strengths that we need to appreciate and acknowledge. Seeing our talents helps us appreciate our qualities and allows us to appreciate other's contributions to the betterment of the world.
Here are some suggestions: Help someone else who is struggling with an issue that you have overcome. The hero’s journey is all about overcoming and then reaching back and helping someone else. That is how you turn your pain into purpose.
Surround yourself with people who have the kind of mindset that you aspire to have. And by all means, please set boundaries with people who drain your energy, put you down, or harm your sense of self-worth. Learn to say no and put your happiness and well-being first. Your future depends on it. Spend your time helping kids; yours, or someone else’s…they are our future… and remember to Embrace Your Enoughness, and you will find your Joy!
(Thoughts by Derek Rydall, Craig Blanchette, and me.)
If you need some encouragement, I’m here for you.
Love and blessings!
Children’s Book Author